A friend reached out to me yesterday and asked,
How do you manage to keep it? Long distance relationship.
I get asked by many that same exact question for years. And most of the time, people are just curious — some believe long distance relationships will never make it, some can’t imagine themselves to be in one, some thought that it is just a game of love. And many other reasons and beliefs which I totally respect. But yesterday was the first time that someone I know dearly asked for advise because he is in one. To be honest, I really didn’t know what to answer; what to advise. I guess, there’s no such thing as perfect combination or right formula to make any relationship successful — long distance or not. It differs every experience, every situation, every person. Some would say “this is what you should do…”, “this is what the other person is thinking/doing…”, “5 things to consider when you are in a long distance relationship….”, etc. But we know better, whatever you see online or whatever people will tell you, it is never the same as theirs. Like you, there’s only one you in this universe.
Later today, Bt and I got the chance to talk about it. And we recalled how our relationship started. How it was sad to be apart, how awkward it was to talk on the phone for the first time (we didn’t even know what to say to each other. haha!), and how we got through all of the things that come our way. It is not easy, I know many would agree. :)
To my friend, I have shared some of my experiences with you related to how we did it. But remember your relationship is never like ours or theirs, it may be similar but it is never the same. Every relationship is beautiful and unique as it is designed by you and your significant other.
And here’s what Brian and I thought about how we did it together —
How you respond to your thoughts will either strengthen your relationship or destroy it.
Trust is always a decision.
How about you? How do you manage to keep it? ;)